“Why is Allah Doing This to Me? Why Does He Ignore Me? Why Doesn’t He Answer My Prayers?”

By Fatima Ariadne

“It seems to me like Allah is out there and away”, an anonymous sister wrote an e-mail pouring all her problems to me, “my life has been spiraling downward. No prayers work anymore. I feel broken and abandoned. I have hoped and prayed to Allah, but He didn’t answer my prayers. I feel betrayed. Why is Allah doing this to me?”.

One of my reply was, “When you drive a car, can you hit the brake and gas pedal in the same time, then expecting the car to move forward that way? Can you hope to God while hating Him at the same time, then expecting His mercy to come that way?”.

“Melancholia” by Edvard Munch

Deep down, I cannot blame her. At least I’ve been in the similar position years ago. I’ve been where I felt like the universe was plotting conspiracy against me. Our only differences lay in the fact that she blames it to external Power, circumstances, whatever that’s called — I didn’t. I decided that my life is my responsibility. I refused to entertain any thought that I’m a victim of destiny, or even worse, “victimized by God”. If I was a victim of something, I was only a victim of my own thoughts and actions.

We’ve emailed each other back and forth on how she can rectify her specific condition. I’ll keep her identity a secret here. But somehow I’m thinking how many people out there may have the similar problem or mentality. So here I re-post several parts of my replies, with some additions, to help other people who also face the same problem.

 

Adversity Is Not Damnation

Doesn’t mean to sound harsh to you but – you must stop thinking that you are being victimized by destiny and that Allah is some cruel entity out there victimizing you day by day. And that you are just a helpless being “being imposed” to such a “huge cruel treatment”. Can you drive your car by hitting a gas pedal and brake at the same time, then expecting the car will move forward that way? Can you “try to hope Allah” and hate Him at the same time, then expecting a mercy?

Adversity is not curse or damnation. Adversity is feedback! It’s how you were being screamed at, “you’re not doing it right enough! or good enough!”. Trying “hard enough” is not always the answer. If you try to shoo a fly by passing it through a closed window, no matter how much you spend your time until your wrinkle grows, it will never leave UNLESS you open the window.

Everything happens for a reason. You heard it all the time that the purpose of life is to worship. I would say that the purpose of life is also to learn, grow, and train your soul including from bitter pills. Adversity is nothing but soul education.

Detach yourself from the thought that “Allah is cruel to me”. If you think that your adversity is a result of God’s hatred or cruelty, then how about His Prophets? Prophets are the most beloved persons of Allah, but they suffered the unimaginable depth of adversity in order for them to fulfill their Divine missions. They were banished, tortured, boycotted, and even murdered by their own people. Would you tell too that their sufferings are because The Divine hated them?

Allah has promised in His book that no one will carry a burden beyond their capacity. Allah is never unjust. So whatever hardship we endure, we only get it because we CAN overcome it. This is our soul training.

Stop thinking “it’s because of God”. Now check your actions, and what you can do about them. There is no way you can expect a change by sitting around and blaming God. Seek a pattern : what are the same things you’ve always done over and over that make you stuck in a rut? There is no way you can expect a different result by doing the same thing.

Come to people who had been there, done that, people who had faced the same thing like you and ask info from them on how they faced similar situation. How they survived. How they managed to get themselves from down to up. Stop blaming God, and instead, decide it to yourself that you claim a full responsibility to your life.

 

God’s Delay is Not God’s Denial

“Man is not weary of supplication for good [things], but if something bad touches him, he becomes ever hopeless and desperate”. (Qur’an 41 : 49)

As I’ve said earlier, you can’t move forward a car by hitting the gas pedal and brake at the same time. You can’t hate Allah, think bad about Him, or desperate about His mercy then expecting your prayers will be answered. Didn’t Allah messaged us :

I am according to My servant’s thought.” (Hadith Qudsi)

Most causes of this hopelessness is a subconscious belief that Allah is “out there, away, don’t know He hears my prayer or not”. Allah is always closer than your jugular veins. Allah is ever always, only one knock away from your door. You can open that door or either keep it shut, and both are your choices. Closeness to Allah is your choice.

I know it seems like unemphatic, but as I’ve been there done that, trust me on this. Divine timing is not our timing. It takes time for a crescent moon to become full, a seed to grow into mature plant, and crops to fruit until it’s ready to harvest. His delay is not His denial.  It took my family to pray for 10 years and trying, until we were released from poverty. It took me around 6 years to pray that Allah will cure me from depression and suicidal feeling.

Long time to wait? Absolutely. Hopeless? Sure. But our only difference was that I was stubborn enough to trust, trust, and trust that Divine mercy is infinite. I trusted that no storm lasted forever, and no tears will remain un-dried. I trusted that there would always be a light in the end of tunnel.  Universe works in contrasts and cycles. No night lingers forever. Night will always be altered by the rising dawn and daylight.

In Divine timing, everything only happens when it is supposed to happen. Nothing is too late and nothing is too early. It is just as it is. The Universe obeys this law. And so are our lives and prayers.

I won’t deny that there is a part in me that refuses to trust and even encouraged me to give up trusting Divine, and that I’d better sail aimlessly to wherever river of life would take me to. But how can I run from Divine if my life and my soul only belongs to Him? How can I run, close my eyes and pretending that He is not exist while He is always here?

“O people of faith! Make sabr (patience, persistence) and prayers your helpers! Verily Allah is with the patient!” (Suraa Al Baqarah 153)

 

“Why Doesn’t Allah Answer My Prayer?”

[At one point, the sister told me how when she prayed for other people, her prayers were answered no matter how difficult the matter. But it’s a different story when she prays for herself. And so this is my reply.]

Do you know why sincere prayers for other people are usually, quickly answered? The simple answer is, because you have no attachment to it. You just pray with all your heart, sincerity, then let Allah do the rest. You don’t bother with it day and night whether it will be answered or not. You just let go of the worry, because you are CERTAIN that you’ve done your part (praying and exhorting a physical effort to pursue it) and Allah will do the rest.

This is what’s frequently missing when we pray for ourselves. And I won’t deny I often fall for similar trap and impatiently asking “well, where is it?”.

I found the best solutions is to shift the doubtful question, “when will my prayer be answered??” —- to a self-assurance affirmation :

“My prayer result is being delivered to me. I have done my part and I trust that Allah will take care of the rest. Allah is my infinite source and I put my trust that He will take care of me in the best way I may not aware of”.

 

Prophet (peace be upon him) had messaged :

“Pray and have certainty that your prayer will be answered” (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah)

“If you supplicate, do not say ‘O Allah, forgive me if You wish. Bless me if You wish. And give me providence if You wish’. Ask with a full (certain) heart, for Allah do what He wishes, and no force on Him” (Bukhari and Muslim)

“The supplication of anyone of you will be answered as long as he doesn’t haste it, and doesn’t say ‘I have supplicated but no answer’” (Bukhari and Muslim)

“Indeed, Allah is hayyi (shy; in a manner befitting His majesty and generosity) and generous. When a man raises his hands to Him, He feels too shy to return it to him empty-handed and disappointed” (Tirmidhi)

“There is no human who prays to Allah and supplicate to Him, and doesn’t receive a response. Either it will be hastened for him in this world, or stored up for him in hereafter, as long as he doesn’t pray for something sinful, or cut the ties of kinship, or seek a speedy response”. The companions said, “O Messenger of Allah, what does seeking a speedy response means?”. He replied, “(by saying) I have prayed to my Lord but He didn’t reply it” (Tirmidhi)

 

UPDATE : This sister finally messaged me that she gets a job she’s been desperately seeking for years ….. “after I let go of attachment and put my trust to Allah” she said. She has been praying for years with no result. No psychologists and hypnotherapists even helped her successfully. But when she shifted her mentality a little, from God-blaming to God-trusting, a difference was seen. Alhamdulillah, praised be to Allah.

Actually this inspires me to write another related piece, titled  “Tawakkal, The Road Less Traveled”. On the inner hidden sides of tawakkul that ironically, many non-muslims and spiritualists are more aware of than most of us muslims.

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41 Comments
  1. 4 years ago
    a Muslimah

    BismillahirRahman nirRaheem

    Salaams sister,

    I have gotten very frustrated about a certain dua of mine that still have no answer. I feel I have tried everything. I just feel that there is no more I can do. Unless Allah show me otherwise.

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    • 4 years ago
      Ariadne

      I know how it feels too ;(. Sometimes the irony is the help we desperately seeking just come out of the blue when we no longer attach ourselves too much to it or : okay God, whatever You wish! May Allah ease everything for you, sis…. xoxo

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      • 2 years ago
        hamza

        I have schizophrenia will it be cured if I pray ……

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        • 2 years ago
          Rashad

          Salam bro,

          Ofcourse, nothing is impossible for Allah. Ask Him and keep trying. I will pray for you too.

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        • 2 years ago
          Danny Boi

          May Allah SWT make it easy for you.
          Sometimes an illness is a blessing. One of the brothers in my Arabic class mentioned how a young boy who became paralyzed and unable to move his limbs anymore started to read Quran and study Islam because he couldn’t do anything else. And he started to love it so much. And when he was asked how he feels about becomig paralyzed, he said that it may have been the best thing that ever happened to him, because he felt closer to Allah after it. The only regret he has, is that he never prostrated (made sajda) to Allah ever when he could move his limbs. And now when he wants to he can’t. And he constantly remembers the ayah in the Quran about the people on the day of judgement who didn’t prostrate to Allah in the worldly life when they could. And they won’t be able to on that day. May Allah protect us all and bless us with his pleasure on that day.

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  2. 4 years ago
    lenosha

    Assalamu Alaikum sis, Great article, very insightful and informative , teaches me new ways of coping during difficult times, Indeed you have reminded us all how merciful and benevolent Allah subahana wataala is, It reminds me of a saying “If Allah (Swt) answers your duas he is increasing your Faith, if He delays He is increasing your patience and if he doesn’t answer your duas then it is only because he has something better planned for you”

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    • 4 years ago
      Ariadne

      alaikum salaam….thank you for sharing such a lovely quote! :D

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  3. 4 years ago
    muzafer

    I’m so lost with life so many burdon in my life and still lost but my heart is telling me that god is man made for our soul to suffer and make tham rich.

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    • 4 years ago
      Ariadne

      I’m understand how it feels when life is being unkind :( and may Allah ease your condition soon. Whether you believe in God or not, you are still the active and conscious participator of your life. People who justify the wrongdoing and seek corruption with the God’s name as their shield never represents Him. Apple won’t turn into grape just because you label it “grape”.

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  4. 3 years ago
    DR.Mehedi

    Great Article

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  5. 3 years ago
    Amaan Masood

    assalaammualaykum sister I have lots of problems in mg life . starting from the beginning I was normal person , enjoying my life and when salaah came in my life still I was normal and because of salaah I was feeling good inside my heart , now I was also becoming good in my studies better then before , I was enjoying like going to masjid and praying with congregation , my mom was also happy , but suddenly everything changed I was having whispering of shaitaan that there is no god out there , why are u praying and this affected my salaah , my salaah was becoming weak , I was becoming lazy in salaah , my studies also going do down , everything changed ,now after 6 years still this is happening , I have lost everything first was my salaah then my mom , sister and then my friends . Now I pray salaah but I don’t enjoy it as I was enjoying it before and my studies has become worse now i am slow in studies very very slow.. I have made several duas to Allah but nothing is happening to me , several times I think that i am suffering from depression but i am not sure about it.. I don’t know what to do now as my mother is expecting more from me .. what u will advice me sister regarding this matter.. please help me , i am in very need of it, thanks salaam

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    • 3 years ago
      Ariadne

      Alaikum salaam warahmatullah akhi

      What you’re suffering now is called waswasah. First of all, these thoughts do not originate from you but it only come from an entity called Shaytan, and know that it is not you that will be held accountable for these thoughts. There’s an authentic hadith from Rasulullah (pbuh) that Allah will forgive bad thoughts crossing the mind of His servants as long as they don’t manifest them into words and actions.

      Some companions of Rasulullah (pbuh) reported the same that they also suffered this thing, and he (pbuh) consoled them that’s the sign of imaan. In other opportunity he said that Shaytan is like a thief. A thief will only seek a bountiful house to steal from. The bountiful house is a believer trying to get closer to his Rabb.

      Trust me, I also suffered from this thing for a long time. The words are even worse than yours, really worse it freaked me out. They also enticed me to do things I’ll never ever do. And then it finally stopped for good. How? By talking it to someone else — in this case my husband. So he told me to repeat these bad words before him out loud, and afterward the waswasah is gone. In your case, you can find the trusted person to share this the same way, like a kind-hearted, non-judgemental pious person for example.

      Secondly, you can try to do ruqyah yourself. Take ablution. Then recite Al Fatihah, Aayah Kursiy, Al Falaq, and An Naas 7 times each, then blow to your hand and rub it to your whole body. That’s it.

      Also if one or two time, the bad words and thoughts came again upon in my salaah, I just told the voice out in my thought, “oh shut the **** up, shaytan. you’re only desperate looking for companions in hell, do you?” then it’s gone (LOL). But know that in the end, these Satanic voices don’t come from you, they’re not you, and you’re not held accountable for them.

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      • 2 years ago
        hamza

        Its ocd a psychological disorder

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        • 2 years ago
          Ariadne

          I’m ocd and schizo survivor. I never had any drugs or treatment except praying so that Allah will heal me. And Allah answered my prayer eventually, though it took years. Don’t give up.

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  6. 3 years ago
    Awan

    Salaam, Sister.
    Well this is what I’m doing right now. I know it’s not easy, but I just have to pray and give the rest to Allah. I know some of my friends also trapped in desperation and suicidal but we talked to each other and we give strength and remind each other if we ever walk too far from Allah’s path.

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  7. 3 years ago
    sharab khan

    I have been crying and crying to Allah for 10 years, yet God has not accepted my prayer, i have a disease called “periodic paralysis” for almost 15 years and i am 29 now, why isn’t Allah accepting my prayer? i have am getting disappointed, just because Allah has rejected me, don’t you people say Allah is 99 times more kind to humans than their parents? Then, whym. Why… why… why isn’t Allah giving me health? Huh

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    • 3 years ago
      attiq

      Probably allah is going to give you jannah, maybe he will cure you from other major illnesses.

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    • 1 year ago
      Bintang

      Assalamualaikum, brother. I know i’m 2 years late but I also have some kind of illness. The thing is, we have to do ikhtiar and pray. Not only pray. Ikhtiar means attempts. Remember a story of an owner of camel who came to Rasulullah and asked whether he should just let his camel alone and put his trust in Allah or not. Rasulullah told him to tie the camel and put his trust in Allah. it means that not only we pray and trust Allah, but also we do attempts to actually get what we what/need.
      I’m 2 years late and I hope you are better now.

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  8. 3 years ago
    jushna islam

    I feel like I dont deserve his mercy. this is why I am getting nowhere. ive changed my life to be a better muslim… seems like its gotten worse

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    • 2 years ago
      hina

      I do not want to be a Muslim any longer. I hve gone though enough and can take no more. The quran or hadith says that evil is from us and good is from Allah so basically we are punished because of what we do. So going through a divorce, dont ever want to marry or have children, have been scarred for life, then after this i could not find a job. Kept getting interviews. Never passed any. Then got sexually assaulted. Islam says it is because of the bad i did? The wrong i did? I never once drank or smoked, never set foot in a club, never did crazy bad things. Whatever i did that were small, i asked Allah for forgiveness. What did i learn from being sexually assaulted by a good member of the public, such a good Muslim man who Allah protects. Yet I’m the one ashamed. I am so so so angry at Allah. How dare he make me feel that being sexually assaulted is my fault?! I did no wrong! In my own home. With my father asleep. I still cannot get a job. I do not want to be a muslim anymore but i dont know how to let go. All I’ve known in my life is to be a muslim, a good one. I stopped praying. I will not pray until i get a damn job. Allah has to give me something. He plays me like a mouse. He’s the cat wacking me and letting me run to happiness only to take it away again. I no longer want to be a Muslim. Please help me. I just want these feelings of attachment to islam to go away. I do not want to care anymore.

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      • 2 years ago
        Ariadne

        No, please don’t leave Islam! Listen, I’m a self-trained healer and I can heal emotional problems and trauma like you. I can do distant healing for you and you dont have to pay me any cent. I recently did healing session for a girl who experienced violent assault and traumatic past like you, now she’s doing well. Maybe I can help you! Just hit the ”contact me” or email me at ariadne@decodingeden.com, okay? I can even teach how you can heal yourself because this doesn’t require any woo woo, even atheists can do this method.

        Look sister, I’ve been there done that too and almost became atheist too. But take this note. The whole shits is not your fault or because you’re being punished by God. Our Prophet actually said that when a muslim experiencing adversity, even if it’s our finger pricked by thorn, our sins will be erased. The one who sexually assaulted you will face punishment either in this life or the next, God doesn’t sleep and justice will stand erect for you and him.

        And since I experienced financial difficulty too at the time for one and half year, this is what get me out : on the night precreding Friday, recite salawat 1000 times, then pray to Allah that whatever reward of that salawat goes to fulfill your dua. Three days later, I was released from hardship. Try that. Insha Allah maybe it can help.

        Contact me, I can heal you insha Allah from that divorce and assault trauma. I’ve done this thing for 3 years, I know my stuff.

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        • 2 years ago
          Anum

          I need your help too. Depression is eating me up.. but still my love for Allah is getting deep alhamdulilah.

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      • 2 years ago
        Anum

        Hey. Please don’t. Allah is beautiful. He tests the one, whom he loves the most.

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  9. 3 years ago
    attiq

    My duas are a reason why my duas are never answered

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  10. 3 years ago
    Sophia

    Well it is very easy to say that don’t get attached to what you ask to Allah. The problem is i let go of all the things which Allah decided not to give me. I always patiently changed the path according to whatever was available. I let go of my career choice , my smallest and really harmless wishes. I worked very hard to excel in what field Allah gave me, got a higher education with a lot o sacrifices and patience. And since i have graduated i dn see any calamity which has not befallen on me and my family. I saw my Fiance and his family breaking ties with us and humiliate me in every possible way and at the same time my father became seriously ill with incurable disease and guess what i was obliged to ask help from the same person who abandoned me in my worst crisis because my father was dying and i would do anything i could.
    I let go of my pain of my self respect shredded to pieaces, and all my wishes of a normal life. No jewels, no palaces, no worldly riches. Just to have a normal family, husband and children and a means of sustenance. I studied 20 years what is so wrong in asking for a means of sustenance? How could i not attach myself to this prayer bcz i do not get any single penny unless i ask help to someone. Why does ALlah hate me asking for my sustenance for which he promised while creating me?
    Is it so offensive to ask for what i was promised? How do i eat the next time. My family has come on the road after my father’s death and cannot help me. I am living with a friend and my Fiance someties pitifully helps me and buy me groceries and Allah almisghty has not given me a position to say no to him because otherwise i would be exposed to people that i am still not earning anything of my own. I work online , try my best to get some work, any type of work but never get even a single interview. I am an engineer and looking for a job for last 2 years 9 months. Is it a small time? The empty stomach does not understand Allah’s philosophy or when i see my mother who has aged 20 years within last one year after my father’s death. I see her dejected face and crying all the time praying to Allah and having an undying faith. Then my sister it becomes very hard to make myself detached from my prayers. Because i could not do anything for my father despite all my education , and seeing the other and the only parent left, losing health and trust in life and in any betterness , it becomes very difficult detaching from what you pray. i become restless because my mother is in pain. I become relentless because i see all people, murtads , kaafirs, non believers, athiests having a better life than me and then my own muslim brothers and sisters judging me. One of my uncle even said that our family has to say shahadah again because Allah is angry with us and that is why we have to re enter in Islam or else we would not be having such calamities.

    I have no place to live and i live with someone who barely gives me space to survive, i can never pray esha because the room becomes busy and outside there are men. I don’t know what to do when i have no father, no husband, and brothers who are in same situation and both are younger than me and don’t have a job. Don’t ALlah see that?in some cases there are things to be granted fast. Or should i just see my other parent dying of worries and not being able to get full care and good food?
    If Allaj decides to give me rewards or answer to prayers after ten years, what would i do with that? With my parents gone and myself being old and having lost all the hope and wish to have anything. Being dependent on anyone breaks me, but seeing my loved ones in distress kills me. Specially when the Almighty gives me food through only a source which He himself broke down and i don’t know why has he attached my rizq with the person who was not supposed to be my sharai husband. I have tried not accepting help from anyone and what happens, i start dying with poverty.
    What will i do with wealth or sustenance when i don’t have anything left to cherish? For last almost three years i have always patiently returned to Allah after each loss. People humiliate and insult us and we keep silent. Is this Allah’s love that the people most insulting and hypocritic are the most Blessed and then they judge us and say that you must be big sinners, that’s why ALlah does not answer your prayers and calamities befall you.
    Are there any answers to these? is asking for self sufficiency wrong? asking Just sustenance and ability to help my mother is wrong?is it haram?is it not alloweD? what am i asking which does not qualifies as a valid dua?

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    • 2 years ago
      Seyma

      Dear Sophia, I just read your post. How are you doing and how the past 5 months been for you?
      Please feel free to email me if you want to talk: seyma.erdinc@hotmail.de
      Stay strong, I will pray for you.

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  11. 3 years ago
    shamim

    Please tell me that how allah can see their people crying.and brock him to go for something wrong

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  12. 2 years ago
    tagamuchi

    Being impatient to achieve happiness leads to sinful nature. PERIOD. dont give too many words to explain. Patience pays, dont blame on the external power, which is anyways all knowing, dont even ask that power who is all knowing, dont utter a word in good or bad, as all intentions ( niyat) of every being is known to this power. do what makes you patient , you like it or not. Internet, mobile phones and faster travel have taken away patience.

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  13. 2 years ago
    gone with the wind

    I got the same feeling, I feel I am forgotten. I am ignored. Every thing is alright in my life , my job, family , friends, but my husband! He is such a bad tempered man and annoys me alot. I can’t tolerate anymore. I am so tired and dissapointed. I cant get divorsed becsuse my dear son. I prayed alot and asked allah to help me but nothing happened.

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  14. 2 years ago
    Rabiya

    Sofia dear plz contact me at rabiya.ahmad7860@gmail.com and tell me more about your problems.i will try to help you in every possible way

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  15. 2 years ago
    Hakim

    I dont know what im doing right now. I was living well praying in the beggining and then i was brainwashed by a person that made me do things that allah would not ignore. I was 10 maybe 9. Currently i am 16 turning 17 soon. I cant think of anything but the end. That one person is living a succesfull life and im drowning in nothing. I pray and pray and pray and nothing NOTHING ever happens. To be honest i dont know who i am anymore. I wish one day allah can end it in my sleep not putting anymore pain in my life. Im not sure if he even answers me anymore.

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  16. 2 years ago
    Ahmed

    I hated the analogy which you have presented here. The vehicle’s gas and brake one. It does not apply here at all. According to this analogy one is asking Allah while he is also hating him. That’s not correct. One is asking Allah becauese he hopes good from Allah and when Allah doesn’t reply him, the person then loses hope. Hating has nothing to do with it.
    When we love someone and they don’t help us we lose hope in them and heel hurt. It is not hating them, most people who say Allah is not accepting the Dua are not hating him rather they are hurt because they so love him and they expect that he will give them what they want. The analogy is very poor which you have given here.

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  17. 2 years ago
    mohsin raza

    now I don’t believe in Allah any more, Allah is partial and he helps only rich people and he hates poor people like us .Once i was a firm beliver and I prayed for Allah and offer salat 5times a day I read Quran every day and I kept fast for him, but what I got from him nothing. I don’t want to share what I lost but one thing that I am not going to pray him any more even in my death bed. what ever he said in Quran or hadith is false ,he gave money ,good food, good clothes,beauty, love, health,wealth,women and other desirous and pleasure things to rich people only and what we poor people got from him pain, pity, sadness, poverty, disease, ugliness, stress, loneliness, hatred, troubles, hardship and unpleasant things. I know even in judgement day he will provide heaven to those sinner rich people and hell for poor pious people who offered prayer and kept fast for him and this is true. Now I am not going to be fooled any more, now I don’t care about Allah likes or dislikes , what ever i want to do I will do it even I feel I should drink alcohol I will do it.
    And I am thinking to change my religion , from last one year I have attracted to Buddhism and influence by great Gautama Buddha teaching and according to my opinion his teaching is far greater than prophet Muhammad, and even I am following his teaching like to give up sex and meat, I am following celibacy and decided not to marry till my death currently I am 23 yrs old and I become vegetarian because killing an animal is violence , and in Islam celibacy is sin and even if you don’t eat meat it is also a sin what a rubbish great people followed celibacy to become great, celibacy gives good health and pure pious thought on the other hand killing an animal is brutality and cruelty and it is in islam.

    So reply me as soon as possible plz don’t take a month or week to reply me Fatima Ariadne

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    • 2 years ago
      azim khan

      Mohsin bhai..dont be among munafikeen who ran away when islam needed them.islam is not your will..it is giving yourself for will of allah.
      You have chamged your religion because your duas were not answered.is that it??..
      Allah says: “Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty and ailments and were so shaken that even the Messenger and those who believed along with him said, “When (will come) the Help of Allah?” Yes! Certainly, the Help of Allah is near! ” [Surah Al-Baqarah, 2: 214]
      I know all this wont make much sense to you as you are trying to find running from your duties to be obedient forever.we all have promised allah to remain faithful till our death no matter what come may.on one side you said you would drink alcohol because this is what allah prohibited and on other side you have changed yourself to buddhist.does buddhism allows alcohol.??
      Brother i know you must have gone through worse times which i could nt even think off.but leaving allah??is that answer??will that solve problem??trust me i myself came here searching for answer to my problem as i m going through rough patch since around 5 years.i see my unbeliever friends around me earning big and having fun.i live on 1000 rupees for a month brother.i feel embarassed to even talk to my friends anymore.i cry cry and cry but in the end i compromise with allah .because i love him unconditionally and i dont pray to him to get my wishes fulfilled but to make him happy.he keeps me troubled because he likes to listen to me everyday.
      People have gone through worst for protecting faith.i beg you to reconsider your decision and think about allah.u cant take revenge from him u know that..theres always a way.keep knocking his door.his gates will open.i will pray for you personally by name.but leaving faith??you may go where you want to but every path would lead you to only allah rabbul izzat..do reply me and remember me in your duas and never let go allah..

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  18. 2 years ago
    Rosli Bin Ramly

    Hi all, i just found out this acticle… i was suffering anxiety & panic disorder, agrophobia, and i got a problem, i can’t leave my house, i can’t work anymore, no income, etc due to my anxiety.. i google ‘why Allah didn’t answering my prayer’, and bring me into this website…. when i read all above comments, i felt i am not alone encounter this… i also have lose hope, i really don’t know what to do…. Sometimes, i also feel Allah swt hate me, etc….. i have this scary thought, irrational thought, that can freak me out…. i been praying for years but still nothing have happen…. so yeah, i really don’t know what to do… and thank you those who his/her time reading my comment.. i really appreciated it…

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  19. 2 years ago
    faizana farooq

    Asalamualaikum …..

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  20. 2 years ago
    shab

    Asak,

    I cannot thank you enough for this article. It was very calming. May Allah bless you for this charity.

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  21. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    I dont know who you are…you dont know who I am but your article helped me a lot. Jazak Allah khair.

    I made this prayer for you
    May Allah forgive you and grant you kingdom that belongs to none after you

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  22. 2 years ago
    ALAF

    DEAR TROUBLED SOULS OR HAPPY SOULS………READ QURAN,WITH TRANSLATIONS & TAFSEERS….READ HADITHS …..UNDERSTAND WHAT MESSAGE THE CREATOR HAS FOR YOU …BECAUSE ALLAH IS HAQQ ( TRUTH ) ….YOU (each individual ) WILL BE ON THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT CLARIFIED OF EVERY SINGLE ISSUE HE HAS HAD CONTRADICTION ABOUT ….. SO FORGET WHAT IS ACHIEVED OR WHAT IS LOST …OUR ULTIMATE GOAL SHOULD NOT BE WORRYING OF WORLDLY AFFAIRS…BUT DEFEAT SHAITAN IN THE WASWASA HE CREATES …( READ SURAH NAAS )AND OTHER VERSES TO GET A CLEAR PICTURE OF OUR EXISTENCE….AT HE MOST A PERSON MAY LIVE IN THIS WORLD UPTO 80 ,90 years ….WORRY ABOUT THE IMMORTAL LIFE HERE AFTER THE DEATH…THIS LIFE IS A TEST …NOT OUR ABODE FOR EVER…THIS LIFE DURATION IS LIKE A DROP OF WATER TAKEN OUT OF SEA CONSIDERING THE NO ENDING IMMORTAL LIFE HERE AFTER ….ONLY IMAAN ( FAITH BELIEF )CAN MAKE YOU STAND FIRM IN THE STORM…HAVE PATIENCE ….OBEY ALLAH ,READ QURAN WITH MEANINGS , UNDERSTAND , BE CONTENT WITH ALLAH ON WHAT EVER AND HOWEVER HE HAS GIVEN YOU OR NOT GIVEN YOU ,,BY THE TIME YOU WILL BE GONE … GONE OUT OF THIS WORLD …GONE TO A PLACE WHERE ALLAH WANTS HIS GOOD SOULS TO GO…SO … SO …NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT… EVEN IF YOU GOT TO EAT GRASS OR DRINK ACID….BUT HAVING FAITH IN ALLAH ..PRAISING HIM …READING NAMAZ … HAVING PATIENCE WILL CERTAINLY…..CERTAINLY…..CERTAINLY…..TAKE YOU WHERE YOU ARE MEANT TO BE . . ACCORDING TO ALLAH ,
    ..YOU WILL BE AMAZED TO REALIZE WHAT YOU ACHIEVE THERE AND ASK ALLAH…WHAT GOOD HAVE I DONE IN THE WORLD FOR YOU TO HAVE GIVEN ME SO MUCH HERE… ALLAH WERE LL TELL …YOUR FAITH …TRUST….PRAYERS ….SABR ( patience ) & MY RAHMATHS HAS BROUGT YOU HERE ….THAT IS AN INDIVIDUALS FINAL GOAL …IF YOU ARE HUNGRY IN THIS WORLD AND ALLAH ‘S INTENTION IS TO KEEP YOU HUNGRY …WHATEVER YOU DO ..YOU CAN’T CHANGE THAT…..( BUT SOMETIMES SINCERE PRAYERS MIGHT CHANGE )…BUT BEING FIRM FOOTED ON ISLAM & ALLAH CAN BRING ABOUT A POSITIVE HAPPY LIFE AFTER DEATH AND THAT IS WHAT IS THE ULTIMATE SUCCESS ….A NON ENDING ONE ..
    PRAY FOR ME AND ALL …..JAZAKALLAH

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  23. 6 months ago
    Fahad

    This post is so good that it motivates me to never give up no matter what..

    I also am suffering from a kind of depression which is related to my studies i am a very slow learner other students in my class learn quick and pass the course but i fail because lack of focus but i work hard but still i fail :( i have been tryiny to complete my degree from 7years trying and trying and trying i did’nt gave up till now at times i feel like i am stuck in a tunnel where there is only darkness and no light but then i perform Salah and feel so calm and i pray to Allah to make a way for me which is in my favour i request every member on this page to pray for me for my sucess as i am very much worried about it :( May Allah listens to my prayers and give me what i desire for Ameen.

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  24. 5 months ago
    Jamal

    I suffered from Nystagums recently (eye movement) and it has made my life a living hell, i have difficulty seeing and i feel like Allah is testing me. Everyday i am sad and don’t know what to do. The only option seems to be prayer since i hardly prayed before and i want to change so bad but i need help.

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