By Fatima Ariadne
“….And whoever places his trust in God, sufficient is He for him, for God will surely accomplish His purpose. For verily, God has appointed for all things their due proportions” (Qur’an 65 : 3)
Tawakkul. We heard it all the time everywhere. But how many times we actually implement it? How many of us actually understanding, and living its meaning?
The irony is, I actually understand tawakkul concept better after reading from non-Islamic self improvement books. Apparently, some non-muslims out there understand better how powerful the concept of “trusting and relying to God” can be. In some cases it could be really life-changing, from creating inner peace to physical healing and abundance. Some are kinda adopted from Buddhism philosophy of non-attachment, and some from other ancient esoteric teachings. But many have similar foundation with the Islamic concept of tawakkul.
I remember one of the Islamic metaphysics book I read in my teen dedicated just one chapter to discuss the mystical meaning behind equation 1/0 = ~ . It was quite interesting. More or less from what I recalled from memory — the author explained that the creations are essentially zero (0) in the face of One Creator (1). But, Allah’s power will remain unlimited (~) and not diminished even an iota after He has shared providence to all His servants. On the other side, if we want to tap such abundance, the answer is to rely to Divine (become “zero”) and trust Him as our infinite Source — through tawakkul and sincere submission.
“Becoming nothing [zero], and He will turn you to everything [~]” (Rumi)
How Tawakkul Works
A farmer who plants his seeds, doesn’t sit frantically day and night, staring at his seeds “come on you! Grow! Grow! Grow!”. He has planted the seeds, he has watered it and given it enough fertilizers. Now he can calmly wait and feel certain that as law of nature conducts, his seeds will grow.
That’s the kind of certainty, trust, and contentment you want to cultivate. Tawakkul is a mindfulness, trust, and certainty that Allah will always take care of you no matter what. Tawakkul is to believe Him even when things seem impossible. You are certain that you have Someone on your back that never sleeps, never let your effort turn to dust. Either He will reward your effort in this world, or in Hereafter.
The best tawakkul example in history is perhaps the mother of Moses (peace be upon them). Just after she gave born to baby Moses, Allah inspired her to put her beloved baby…. in a basket, in a Nile river! Imagine the great patience and trust to Allah this noble lady had! Maybe if it’s you or me, for example, we would be like, “what! how if my baby never make it to survive! No way!”.
If it wasn’t a complete, solid trust to Divine, I don’t know what else is that.
Okay. But there is a small catch in here.
The fruit of tawakkul doesn’t just blossom without nothing. We can’t just sit idly and expecting miracle. Reliance to Allah doesn’t nullify physical effort. Sure you remember a hadith :
“If you put your trust in Allah in the true sense, He will grant your provision as He grants to the birds, who go out in the morning hungry and come back full.
(Ahmad, Ibn Majah and al-Tirmidhi).
Can you see it there?
The birds explained are “go out in the morning”. They don’t just sit in their nest. They leave their homes to seek provision. Just as our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) messaged to a man, “tie your camel first (i.e. do a physical effort first to make yourself secure in the matter), then tawakkul”. The Divine part is to provide you the key and show you the door, but opening that door and walk the path therein are your part.
Just like the farmer, he’ll only able to harvest his crops if he sows the seeds from the first place. If he just sit idle, his field will only be filled with weeds and wastes.
Another brilliant quote from Umar ibn Khattab :
“It is not becoming of a Muslim to sit down and praying ‘Oh God please give me provision’ without him attempting to earn it. Sure he is well aware that the sky doesn’t rain silver and gold.”
Seeing through the Divine Eyes
Imagine you’re a curious traveler walking in a forest, and in the middle of journey you’re trying to find a water source. This forest is entirely new for you. You don’t have any sufficient map, nor GPS. So along the journey you just walk and walk with limited resources. Everything you see around are trees. To find a water source, the choices available are : trying some forest paths here and there… or make a guess. Either way, you’re still risk in getting lost.
Fortunately, your friend happened to pass by above you, by a helicopter. This enables him to have a bird-eye view of the whole forest. So you contacted him, and he told you that to find the water source you should go to a certain direction.
“Go to your left path and climb a hill nearby, you’ll find a river there!”
Then you see that the said left path is kinda dark, twisted, and scary. And you think that climbing hill is simply consuming energy and time. You start complaining to your friend, “No, man! That’s a difficult path! Give me another way, please! How about Path X, I see it now and it looks easy! And hey, lots of flowers too!”
“But mate, that’s the closest water source around you! Sure you can walk the path X, but I see it’s filled with some poisonous bushes that will make you paralyzed from head to toe”
“Uhhh…. No thanks! I think I’ll just go to the left path and climb the hill then!”
Okay, I hope I don’t make you ZZZZZZ with this dry anecdote! But you get the idea.
In this case, there’s the traveler (you) and his friend. You could only see trees around and several bits of here and there from your limited horizontal view. But your friend was flying in heli. And in elevated height, he could see the whole forest view broader than you. So what could you do when you need some important directional guide? You ask him to guide you.
Sure you could always choose to dismiss your friend’s suggestion and make your own way, i.e. going to Path X. You have a free will, so why not! In your (narrow) view and perception, the path just “seems easy” and “haz flowerz”. At least until you found out about the poisonous bushes…..
But let’s not forget, your friend’s bird-eye view position enables him to have a much, much broader view on the WHOLE forest than YOU. He could see what you couldn’t see. He knows what you don’t know. Whose judgment you’d rather trust? In this case, it’s wiser and safer to trust your friend and his judgment.
Can you see how this applies in your life between you and Allah?
Sometimes you’re complaining like “Allah abandons me”, “Allah ignores my prayers”, “Why my life is made this way”, “why Islam is this and not that”, and you start questioning His mercy.
But this is only when you see your life from the perspective of creations. When you see it from the Divine perspective, know that Allah has broader view than His creations. He is All-Knowing and All-Sustainer. Allah’s plan is the best plan, but sometimes our limited resources just can’t comprehend His wisdom yet. Hence the best way for us is to submit and trust Him.
“….But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.”
(Qur’an 2 : 216)
Tawakkul in Supplication : “Why is My Prayer Result Not Coming Yet?”
Now back to the farmer analogy.
A farmer too, understand that if his crops take 3 months to harvest, he will not expect it to be fruitful overnight so he could harvest it tomorrow. Because as Qadr Allah, it will be harvested when the time is due.
Crops take time until it’s fruitful, crescent moon takes her time to become full moon, and midnight takes time before he changes his black cloak into dawn.
This is the same with the phase of our life. A lot of times, we human beings are so impatient! (Including this yours truly….ahem…). When Allah doesn’t respond our prayers the way we want it, we despair and think Allah has wronged us! Even going far thinking, “Allah hates me”. Allah is this and that and bla bla bla.
“And man supplicates for evil as he supplicates for good, and man is ever hasty”
(Qur’an 17 : 11)
“Man is not weary of supplication for goodness, but if something unwanted happens to him, he becomes hopeless and ever despairing”.
(Qur’an 41 : 49)
You must have heard this Hadith Qudsi : “I am as My servant expects of Me”
Commenting the above hadith, Ibn Hajar in his “Fathul Bari” stated the hadith can be read as “I am able to do whatever my servant expects Me to do”.
Ibn Qayyim commented in Madarij As-Salikin (credit : hadithaday.org) :
“Most people just assume the worst. Most people believe they are deprived of their rights, have a bad luck, or deserve more than what Allah gave them. As if they’re saying, ‘My Lord has wronged me and deprived me of what I deserve’……
The one who hopes in Allah should always be optimistic, cautious, and hopeful in Allah’s bounty, expecting the best from Him.
…….In reality, having good expectations of Him will lead you to rely on and trust Him. After all, you cannot trust someone if you [already] harbor a bad expectations or no hope in him.”
One Example : The Changing Mirror
I’d like to share you one example from my petty experience ;).
If you read my other article here about beauty image, you’ll find out that I have problem with appreciating my own physical beauty. I’m still struggling to accept and love my own body. I often call myself “ugly” until now, because that’s how some people in my earlier youth used to call me. “You’re so ugly”. Though it’s a long past, the title stuck in my mind. Hence, “ugly duckling”.
But back then, my self image was worse that just by seeing my own face on the mirror I’d cringe like no tomorrow. And binge eating. I stuffed every food to my mouth when I was distressed, knowing well that no matter how much I eat I’ll never be fat or curvy. People keep telling me they wish they could be like me so they can eat whatever they want without worry of gaining weight, but for me being skinny is my nightmare!
So one day, in half-desperation I really asked Allah to make me “beautiful”.
And bam, the supplication was answered!!! But the way it’s fulfilled, was kinda fascinating.
I felt less emo when I looked at myself. In fact, I could be more appreciative to my own face and bodily parts. “Wow, look at that face, it looks younger than my actual age”, “look at this and that, they’re lovely”. For the first time I finally able to think I’m beautiful.
Finally I realized this one thing : Allah didn’t fulfill my request “to be beautiful” by giving me new pairs of eyes, lips, new skins, or silky hair. He only changed my perception and state of mind. He only changed the way I looked at myself in the mirror. Plain and simple.
He gave me an insight that a beauty is not about how you look in the mirror – instead, it’s rather how you interpret what you see inside the mirror that matters. Your life is how you interpret it. It’s about your interpretation of events rather than the events themselves. Why is beauty image any different!
My dear ones, Divine logic is not linear, nor one-sided.
Sometimes when you ask for a diamond, Allah will instead give you a treasure map just so you can value the struggle and more valuing the diamond itself.
Sometimes when you ask for a fruit, instead of giving you one, Allah will give you a seed so that you can plant and grow it into a tree that produces many more fruits than you would expect in the first place.
Now the question is, How about the supplications that seem gone unanswered?
Do you remember when you were child, and you asked something to your mum but she said “no”? Or “No, don’t pick that one. Pick this one instead” ?
Your mother only refused to give what you want, not because she “hates you”. In fact, she really cares about your well-being and with her experience, she knows what might harm her child and what is better for him. (Do you remember a hadith that said Allah is more Merciful to you more than a mother’s compassion to her child?)
Some hadiths recorded several ways Allah fulfilled our supplications :
– It’s fulfilled exactly the way we want it.
– It’s fulfilled late (Allah knows the best timing),
– It’s replaced with a better alternative.
– It’s added in our Hereafter scale to ease our journey there.
Allah doesn’t always give us what we want. But He gives us what we need.
The best way to let go of the worry and attachment to the supplication result is by saying this affirmation sincerely :
Another interesting post for your reading :
Why Does Allah Ignores You, Left You in the Dark, and Doesn’t Answer Your Prayers?