Please, Permit Me to Do Fornication!

By Fatima Ariadne

It was narrated by Abu Umamah in Hadith Ahmad (authentic), a young man came into Rasulullah (peace be upon him) and said :

“O Messenger of Allah, please permit me to do fornication”

The companions were shocked to hear his statement, murmured and gone angry, some even told him “shut up, you!”. But Rasulullah (pbuh) kept calm and said “let him come nearer (to me)”. And Rasulullah (pbuh) told him “please sit down”. And the young man sat.

Rasulullah (pbuh) : “would you like someone to do fornication with your own mother?”

The young man replied : “no, by Allah.”

Rasulullah (pbuh): “and so does other people. No one likes their mother to do fornication with other people. Now, would you like to do fornication with your own daughter?”

The young man : “no, by Allah.”

Rasulullah (pbuh) : “and so does other people. No one likes their daughter to do fornication with other people. Now, would you like to do fornication with your own father’s sister?”

The young man : “no, by Allah.”

Rasulullah (pbuh) :  “and so does other people. No one likes their father’s sister to do fornication with other people. Now, would you like to do fornication with your own mother’s sister?”

The young man : “no, by Allah.”

Rasulullah (pbuh) : “and so does other people. No one likes their mother’s sister to do fornication with other people.”

Rasulullah (pbuh) then put his hands unto the young man’s head, and said “O Allah, please forgive his sins, clean his heart and guard his chastity”.

Since then, as the narrator told, this young man never even looked to something that’s forbidden (haraam).

Now ask yourself : what would you react if someone come to you and said “please permit me to do fornication”? Hmmm…perhaps , “Why do you want to do so, it’s haraam”.

That’s a good response. But how if……

“What the hell, are you [beep] crazy!!!!!!!!! Go read Qur’an and learn Islam, you [beep]  lowlife!!!! Fornication is haraaammmm! Only a backward sinner would do!!!”

But in here, we see how Rasulullah (pbuh) reacted and answered this in a wise manner , in a compassionate and loving way. He asked the young man how if it’s his mother, or his daughter, or his relative who experience this with other people – then would he like it? Rasulullah SAW asked the young man to step in other people’s shoes – if the guy himself doesn’t like it, no one likes their ladies family members to be tainted, either. Then he prayed directly before this guy, that may Allah protect him from evil wrongdoings.

Let’s see again :

1. Rasulullah (pbuh)answered the guy in a gentle, compassionate way. He didn’t even show anger or offended reaction. He understood the guy’s situation.

2. He disarmed the guy by asking him to see a new perspective, to put himself in other people’s shoes and how he would reacted the same if it’s his own female family members being treated that way. Then….

3. He even pray a goodness upon the guy, right before him and other people (Companions) witnessing.

Can you imagine how if the guy is you? No one on earth will react negatively to such loving wisdom of Rasulullah (pbuh).

Rasulullah (pbuh)gave us a great example that even to denounce evil, compassion and understanding win big —- even works better than hate, insult, verbal attack, and anger.

Let us remember this wisdom, insha Allah.

7 Comments
  1. 4 years ago
    Hyde

    Only if it was that easy sister! Zina is not “ask-able”. People whose intent is to do zina will do it anyway. And people who fall into fitna (and that goes for both men and women) will not have the lapse of judgement to do otherwise…and then there is people like me who are scared that they will fall into that, even being a loner!

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    • 4 years ago
      Ariadne

      Woop, sure they are! but my objective of this article is not to explain the fornication itself :D it’s rather to explain the example of Prophetic wise approach. Look at how he instead rebuking or scolding the dude for the question, he just calmly asked how if it’s the dude’s female relative being treated as the object. The Prophet brings out the guy’s empathy, instead condemning. Nowadays people are waaaaaaay too easy to condemn than to have empathy (speaking this to myself too ;)).

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      • 4 years ago
        Hyde

        What is the limit of empathy ? Should we, as Muslims not be intolerant on the intolerable?

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        • 4 years ago
          Ariadne

          In Musnad Ahmad the Prophet (pbuh) was recorded to say, if you can end a conflict with peace, then do so. Replying fire with fire will only makes the whole world burns. But to note, empathy NEVER means supporting evil or compromising your faith to aid the evil or to gain the evildoers sympathy in what they’re doing. If you’re supporting evil in the name of “empathy”, you’re a transgressor. That’s the clear limit.

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        • 3 years ago
          Mustafa Mahmud

          Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

          SubhanAllah hide, this is like the fourth website I’ve seen you on. You are everywhere…………

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  2. 4 years ago
    Imran

    A fantastic post mashllh.

    The incredible ability of the Prophet (pbuh) to empathise coupled with a deep insight into human psychology was (imo) a divine gift.

    The Prophet’s response is disarmingly simple, elegant and yet overpowering through sheer empathy and understanding.

    Only point I would add is that only those who have complete mastery over their inner selves could respond in such a way. We can truly only empathise with others when we understand ourselves.

    I think this amazing (inner) aspect of the Prophet (pbuh) and his Companions is often overlooked in favour of times, dates, events etc.

    Jzk for sharing!

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  3. 4 years ago
    Yasmeen

    If only we were like the prophet (pbuh)… I would have just honestly react like the companies if my iman was even that high tbh…

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