“I wish I could turn back time and change the past”. If you indeed have a power to change the past, what kind of event you want to change? If 5 years ago you’ve known what you know today, how would things be different?
By Fatima Ariadne
We heard these statements so many times.
“I wish I knew that earlier!”
“I wish I can turn back the clock and change everything!”
So what are you gonna do, if you’re really able to turn back time at your fingertips? If time machine really exist here, now, and you can go back there whenever you want?
If you have that ability to change the past, what kind of past events you want to change?
Maybe you’ll vow yourself not to make this and that silly mistake, or miss an opportunity.
Maybe you want to avoid that particular failing relationship.
Maybe you want to avoid negative people who had consumed your life. Or abusive partner. You’ll run from them earlier, as far as you can.
Or maybe you’ll want to straighten things out and cut the learning curve process to your goal. Just so it doesn’t take so long for a success.
But Guess What….
When a baby was born first time from his mother’s womb, can he then able to speak, walk, and run in marathon at once?
Yet no one in the world wishes they could run when they were babies.
When you’re a newborn baby, all you can do is cry and cry and move a bit of your body. A baby can’t even speak, leave alone running. As time goes by, the baby then able to crawl. Then he learned to walk. And the walk wasn’t that smooth either. He FELL. Then he walked again. Then he FELL. And walked again.
Yet you don’t blame the baby, and no people around demanding – why the newborn baby cannot walk instantly.
Another example is a plant seed. When you sow a seed, will it be a huge fruitful tree overnight?
No. You must take care of the seed. You’ll have to water it, give it fertilizer until its arm breaks up to sunlight. The weather may betray you, or some pests may annoy the seedling’s growth. And you have to start over again.
But the process is there.
And as the law of nature conducts, it takes time. A butterfly wasn’t created instantaneously. A pearl wasn’t created overnight. A crescent moon takes time to become full. Flower doesn’t bloom right from day one. Fruit takes time to ripen. Nature has taught us that things happen when it was supposed to happen.
And it takes time.
“You certainly will travel from stage to stage (of life)” (Suraa Al Inshiqaaq : 19)
Everything Has Its Own Timing
“If you want guarantees in life, then you don’t want life. You want rehearsals for a script that’s already been written. Life by its nature cannot have guarantees, or its whole purpose is thwarted.” (Neal Walsh)
There’s a grand wisdom why Divine Creator doesn’t let us freely turn back time : it is to make every experiences, both bitter and sweet, as our avenues to grow, to take wisdom and lessons from. And growth is a steady line, not a singular point.
We all have to start from ZERO some time in our life. No exceptions. That’s how we’re born to this world : ZERO. And zero is the first step before you walk a thousand miles. It’s a law of nature.
“And Allah has brought you out from the wombs of your mothers while you knew nothing. And He gave you hearing, sight, and hearts so that you might be grateful” (Suraa An Nahl 78)
Now let’s say you have a superpower ability to turn back time, so you can “fix your past mistakes”.
Maybe you can avoid THAT particular mistake you always feel ashamed of. But you will certainly make another mistake. Or you will make THE SAME mistake, only in a different way – if your mind is already tied to a negative pattern.
Either way, mistake will always happen. But the successful people are known for how they get up and run after they fall. It’s not about the mistake itself, but how we act or react upon it.
Sometimes the Divine’s timing is not necessarily our timing. But He had arranged everything in place and time, alongside our path.
Narrated by Jabir, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) stated : ‘No slave of Allah will truly believe until he believes in Divine Decree its good and bad from Allah, until he knows that what has befallen him was not going to miss him and that what missed him was not going to befallen him.'(Tirmidhi)
“And know that what has befallen you was not going to miss you, and that which missed you was not meant to befall you.” (Tirmidhi)
“Nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allah has ordained for us.” (Suraa At-Taubah 51)
“Be eager to reach anything beneficial for you. Ask God for assistance and do not be weak. And if something (unpleasant) befallen upon you, do not say “if only I do this and that, it will be this and that way”. Instead, say “God has decided, so what He wills, becomes”. Because saying “if only” will open the gate of devil’s work” (Sahih Muslim)
Because nothing happen without reason.
And that’s including the sequences of your life.